Rugged idealism is a concept ingrained in the DNA of America. We make heroes of the underdog who ‘pulls themselves up by their bootstraps’. Is it any wonder then that we feel (or are made to feel) that asking for help, understanding and emotional support are signs of weakness? In the face of life’s inevitable challenges, resilience is the quality that allows us to not only bounce back from challenges but prepare for them as well. Resilience isn’t just an individual trait, however, it’s also a product of the support systems we build around us. Here’s why cultivating a strong network of support is essential for building resilience.
The Protective Power of Emotional Support
Emotional support acts as a buffer against stress. When we have people who believe in us and provide meaningful support, it boosts our self-esteem and bolsters resilience in stressful situations. In a study published in the American Nurse Journal, nurses reported that during the pandemic, supportive relationships not only provided a measure of protection against compassion fatigue and burnout but was a key factor in their decision to remain in the profession. Having a network of supportive relationships can lead to better health, longer lives, and higher well-being.
Combating Loneliness with Connection
As we discussed in our last post, depersonalization is a hallmark of burnout. A vicious cycle of increasing mental and emotional distance that leads to increasing disconnection from people and activities that used to be meaningful to us. The ensuing loneliness has been linked to a range of health problems, including high blood pressure and cognitive decline. By building a support system, we combat loneliness and its associated risks. Even a small network of friends, family, or colleagues can provide the support needed to navigate life’s ups and downs. Sharing your concerns and burdens with a support network can significantly lower stress levels, making life’s challenges more manageable. It’s the sense of not being alone in your struggles that can make all the difference.
Encouraging Healthier Behaviors
A support system can act like a personal coach for life, encouraging healthier lifestyle choices. Knowing that others are invested in your well-being can be a powerful motivator to maintain healthy behaviors. A support network can also guide you to professional help when necessary, acting as a bridge to more specialized care. This aspect of support is crucial, especially when dealing with mental health issues where professional intervention might be required.
Building Your Support Network
Creating a support network takes intentionality and effort. Building a support system is a proactive process that involves reaching out and nurturing relationships. This can seem a daunting endeavor, especially if burnout has begun causing disconnection already. Taking a small step today can give you the encouragement you need to take another step tomorrow, then another and another as you continue to build resilience and heal.
Try some practical ways to create and strengthen your support network:
1. Identify Your Support Needs: Start by identifying what kind of support you need. It could be emotional, practical, informational, or a combination of these.
2. Reach Out to Family and Friends: Your existing relationships are a great starting point. Open up to family, friends and colleagues about your need for support. It’s possible that they are also needing support but have been afraid to ask
3. Engage in Group Activities: Participate in local events, clubs, classes, groups, or faith communities that align with your interests. This can help you meet and talk with like-minded individuals.
4. Volunteer: Volunteering can connect you with others who share your values and provide a sense of purpose.
5. Seek Professional Networks: If you need career support, look for professional networking groups in your field.
6. Use Social Media Wisely: Social media can be a tool to stay connected with distant friends and family or to join support groups. Just avoid making it your primary method of connection as we can find ourselves mindlessly scrolling without participating in substantive conversations.
7. Be a Supporter Yourself: Offering support to others can often lead to reciprocal relationships. Reach out to a colleague who may need support and invite them for coffee.
8. Consider Support from Pets: Animals can provide companionship and unconditional support.
9. Attend Workshops or Therapy Groups: These can provide both professional guidance and peer support.
10. Maintain and Nurture Relationships: Regularly check in with your support network and be there for them as well.
Remember, building a support system takes time and effort, but the benefits for building your resilience and overall well-being are invaluable. It’s not just about having people to turn to in times of need; it’s about creating a foundation of resilience that enables us to handle stress and recover from setbacks with greater ease. As we nurture our relationships and expand our networks, we strengthen our ability to thrive in the face of adversity.
We'd love to hear how you build your support systems. Leave a comment below and share your ideas.
References:
Watson, AL. Connections ease nurses’ burdens. American Nurse Journal (2024); 19(2); 26-31
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